This is a fundamental part of relating. We need and want to be able to Feel each other. We are pack animals with attachment systems at play in our relationships and if we miss this key part to the work, we often will be stuck in protective cycles. Attainment is about building capacity and awareness of the present moment and learning to share that moment with each other. When all emotional states are “known” to the body and are no longer always linked with fear (unless “real” danger is present) we have a better ability to express and share these states with each other.

This is more of the somatic body awareness and is connected to our original childhood patterning (attachment content). How our emotions, including emotional pain as children was worked with, and if that supported our nervous system to develop a sense of safety in the body and emotional states of being/expressing. Often times we will play out our attachment wounding, or protective patterns we learnt a long time ago, this was protective at one point, but often does not serve us any longer, especially if the pattern is the only choice we have in the moment. At Inner Motus Ruby works with you to develop more conscious choice while honouring and understanding the original pattern. This is about being present and noticing if danger is actually present, or if it’s your body responding to another time.

This is a key part of adult relating. We need to have awareness of our words, our actions and how they meet each other in partnership. The integrity and honesty of our words matters and many of us learn to say “the right” words, rather than the true and honest words. Ruby supports you to speak with honesty, clarity and integrity, that what you feel is what you say, however, this is also about the saying things to our partners that honours the bond, the relationship and each other as human beings.